Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Hate The Playa, Hate The Game..

Salaamu Alaikum my sisters in the blogosphere, I 've been meaning to getting this post out. Anyways so here's my story. It was a weekday morning and I had to take my son to the pediatrician. I was already running behind, couldn't find my keys frantically searching so I could close the door. Alhamdulilah, found em' and I was out. I don't normally take the bus, but I had no other choice this time and waited at the corner of my street. I was searching in my bag for my token so I wouldn't be slow getting onto the bus with a stroller and all. By this time, everything is fine and I'm waiting minding my own business thinking about life. Then this white van pulls up to the bus stop and with his window rolled down he decides to say "Hey..Psst". Now I'm actually shocked out of my mind because he was sooo bold. I have a child, looking like somebodies mom. I'm wearing an abaya and covered properly. I'm thinking in my head " What is this dude's problem? What in the hell is he thinking approaching me?"

I didn't answer the guy, my reaction is clear. My face changes and I look disgusted. Hoping he will just go away he waits and looks at me. I can feel his eyes looking me over & over. I want to wipe the grin off of his face. I turn around giving my back to this idiot. I'm starting to feel really gross. I guess to this guy, who clearly isn't muslim it didn't matter.What a creeper, he watched me for about 5 minutes. He could have gone and made his right turn and be on his way, but no. He missed the light just for me..ewww

All I know is, it was clear it didn't matter to this guy if I had a kid, or could have been married. ( which we know I am) Some men are sooo sick out there it really doesn't matter. They really think they have game.? Muslim or non-muslim. Now back in my jahiliyyah, I was always sick and tired of men bothering me. Trying to holla at me. Making fools out of themselves just so they try a one liner or what have you. I've heard it ALL. I used to get embarrassed especially when I was with my Dad or my Mom. It's totally ajeeb dude, and SO wrong :$ These men didn't have enough respect to leave me alone when I'm with my family.

To all my non-muslim men and in some cases muslim brother's that don't know proper ettiquette, listen well. What a muslimah really thinks is hot is the respect you give her. So LOWER YOUR GAZE. Don't try and holla at me "playa, playa". I'm a believing woman going about her day. I could be:1. Somebodies wife, 2. Somebodies mother, 3. Somebodies sister, 4. And I'm for sure somebodies daughter. If that doesn't make you think twice I don't know what will. Would you want your mother or sister to be treated this way, haha didn't think so.

In the words of my grandmother "Man is Man." So I keep it real, being modest is hottest.

<3taya* Umm Layth

Friday, June 19, 2009

How do you like me now?

Hey Assalaamu Alaikum, what do ya think about my new diggs? I thought I would brighten up my page for summer. It's about time I do something different. I was getting bored for a minute. Yeah, I like it I think I'll keep sunny & pretty like this until I get bored hehehee. Hope Everyone had a good friday inshallah.

<3 taya* Umm Layth aka Sugarplum

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

It screams buy me, but do you need it?

I'm talking about getting caught up. It's something women are good at when it comes to shopping. We see something and we stare at it, it stares back at you. (clothes, handbags, jewelery, shoes what have you.) " OMG, it's so cute." The more you touch it and hold onto it, the deeper we sink into convincing ourselves that we might actually buy it. That "This was made just for me!" This might actually be an impulse buy. Take a second, matter a fact take two my friend. Get out of the store, and walk it off. Mull it over and think about what your doing, bc if you really don't need it, what the dickens are you doing? Subhanallah, we are muslims and we should always strive to be modest, as much as we can. Buy what you need, not what you want. This is a recession, be a recessionista! Save your pennies for rainy days. Do not spend excessively on wordly things, bc when you die, you can't take it with you! Resist the whispers from the shaytaan, how we spend our money as muslims matter, we will be asked about it. Spend money in the sake of Allah and you'll never go wrong. May Allah make it easy for us all, ameen.

‘Urwah b. Al-Zubayr – Allah have mercy on him – said:

‘Â’ishah – Allah be pleased with her – gave seventy thousand (dirham) in charity, while her own skirt used to be patched.

‘Abdullah b. Mubârak in Al-Zuhd wa Al-Raqâ’iq Vol. 1 p588, no.705.

taya* Umm Layth<3

Friday, May 29, 2009

Assalamu Alaikum, I have spent the last little while thinking about Hajj. InshaAllah, I will make it one day. I just have this strong desire to try and fulfill it sooner than later. As you already know I'm preparing to leave for Medina inshaAllah, so the reality can be coming sooner than later. I just wonder how it feels to be there. I crave this feeling of contentment and peace, that I know I have never felt or known before. It's hard to describe, it's not just the feeling you get from being a practicing muslim, it's deeper than that. There's just so much to take in. And hearing stories of relatives and friends who've been able to, SubhanAllah it does something to my heart. As for now I just have to remain patient bc Allah is the best of ALL planners, so it's better to not rock the boat!


Blue me away..

Assalamu Alaikum, I just love this lil darling outfit! I think the colour combo is flattering on any skin tone mashaAllah. Do wear this look with a smoked eye & and for a "pop" on the lips go for the red. Def. a sizzling combo if you do the right red. Anyone can wear red lipstick, inshaAllah you just have to pick the right one hehe. Walla, I would wear this outfit to an all girl function. Or a nite out with the hubby. Btwn you and me, I would wear this at home if I just felt like dressing up hehe.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Sugarplum is back!!!

Assalamu Alaikum,

It's been ages since I've blogged. I've had a long break and are ready to make a comeback, and start blogging more often. I've been a busy body trying to prepare to leave for saudi inshallah. I've been throwing out many things, such as clothing I don't need anymore/ things I would consider donateable. I figure, that I'm not going to be one of those sisters that pack the kitchen sink if you know what I mean. I told my husband, I'm going to buy more clothes anyways. Besides less is more, keep classic pieces in your wardrobe and throw out stuff you don't wear! I think everyone should follow the one year rule. If you're not wearing it within that year, you don't need it. It's no longer yours. So say goodbye.


Tuesday, February 24, 2009

What's inside my bag..


The above pic isn't what's in my handbag, it's just a random pic. Seeing as how am a mommy the stuff I'm carrying is going to be little different than what it used to be but here we go:

1) All things baby, diapers, wipes, baby powder, ect

2) Baby food/snack/bottle

3) Spare change of clothes for baby

4) Cell phone

5) Book of dua'a called Muslim Fortress, it's awesome mini sized.

6) Lipglosses n' lipstick..not one bc I love make up way to much to carry one.

7) kohl eye liner

8) blush, although I don't end up needing it most times.


10) pen n notebook


12) toys for my son

13) bottled water, gotta keep myself hydrated.

14)hair ties

15) hand lotion, all fruity

16) sweets or chocolate and gum or ALL!! hehe

Women Driving In Saudi Arabia..


Could it finally be possible that women are finally going to get they're right to drive in Saudi? Or am I living in a dream world? SubhanAllah the last time women in the kingdom brought attention to the issue was in 1990. For so long this thing kept getting side stepped.

Since then a Saudi women Wajeha Al-Huwaider posted a video of herself driving in Saudi on YouTube. She holds a licence, but to her dismay is only allowed to drive to the rural areas. She explains her frustrations and states that this restriction "paralyzes half the population." International Women's Day was on Saturday and in the first four days of having posted this video on YouTube a whopping 19 000 000 have viewed it.

"For women to drive is not a political issue," Wajeha said as she drove. "It is not a religious issue. It is a social issue, and we know that many women of our society are capable of driving cars. We also know that many families will allow their women to drive."

Wajeha, along with 125 other women signed a petition urging Prince Nayef bin Abdel Aziz. She said the women who signed the petition would be "willing to assist the government in training other women and helping them obtain their own driver's licenses." The petition-signers hold driver's licenses from a variety of countries.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

How I became Muslim


I thought it would be appropriate to share with you how I became muslim. I am a revert to islam, alhamdulilaah holla!

Throughout my lifetime I was raised as an anglican christian. I grew up in the church the whole shabang. I had a good foundation as a child with my spirituality, I learnt to love Jesus. It wasn't until I got older that there would be certain occassions in my life where I would question my religion. As a child you are told good from evil and your parents are there to guide you along the way. They could tell you the sky rains lollipops and you would beleive it. Why? Simply because you love them and you trust them. So, it's no wonder that the religion that they choose to bring me up in seemed like the perfect religion. And if I found fault with it, it was because there was something wrong with me..at least that what I used to think.

In my teen years, holding on to my spirituality was like holding a peice of thread, you could barely see it. Now in highschool being religious wasn't "cool" so there were things I would downplay. I began to grow further away from the church and just do whatever I wanted, giving into my desires. It can be such a crazy time trying to figure out who you are, who you want to be and what you would like to get out of this life.

It finally hit me later on in University that there is more to life than the life I was living. I was known to party with some of the best of em. Not something I say to be proud of, only to let you know that I'm keeping it real. Life can be unkind when you live it godless. By then I even questioned " Is he really there?" I had really almost lost myself. I was depressed and just sick of the drama. I had many people in my life who supported my non-halal lifestyle. I got the popularity, glamourized it, the whole bit. I couldn't even see the countless blessings that Allah had put in my life. I coudn't have gotten this far in life on my own stregnth. And that whatever I have been given in this life is given to me from Allah. Period.

It took someone from my jahiliyah to make me see. I hadn't talked to this person since highschool and we were at different places in our life. We used to be good friends a long time ago, and between friends we could talk about anything. We began talking about islam. Little by little, I was given loving spoonfulls of dawa'ah (unknowingly heeh). To me the topic, well heck I knew nothing and was open to recieve the message. For christians, I beleive it is only natural to come into islam. It is the next step if you trully want to grow.

As an adult you owe it to yourself to come straight out and think criticly for yourself. I had been having discussions about christianity and islam, and was pleasantly surprised to see the
similarities between the two which resulted in me bridging the gap and taking my shahadah. Allahu Akbar girlfriend hehe!!!!My friend was soooo happy for me and I was excited for my life. I got my life back, alhamdulilalh. I began to learn to pray and learn more about islam and have peace in my heart. I love islam, and islam loves you too! It was a major lifestyle change for me, and to get to where I am now wasn't easy allahu ahnam. I had to fight for what was right. I didn't tell my parents right away. My mother had a hard time, I walked in her shoes I understood what she felt. It was painful for her. How could I just abandon this religion that I spent all my life trying to learn? I took my time with it, alhamdullilah allah made it easier for me. And she loves me as a muslim. (say mashaAllah) I'm fortunate, that is not the case for everyone.

The shaytaan gets to them wispers in their ears, telling nonsense. She got passed it because at the end of the day, I am her daughter. And its just that simple. Who knows maybe one day she'll take her shahadah inshallah. I would love that, so much. For now, I can only lead by example and try to be a better muslim inshallah and "make it rain", just flood it with dua'as that one day my family will be muslims too.

My friend, the one who gave me dawa'ah said they made tons and tons of dua'as for me. In fact it was that they felt compelled to ask Allah that I become muslim inshallah and bear witness that Allah is one. I never mentioned but this friend was a brother in islam. And we prayed our way to each other. What better gift from Allah to have a friend like him. In my life before I had asked god to send me someone to love me for me. To treat me well and make me laugh ALOT! hehe. Well alhamdulilah, I have that now and so much more. We truly, madly, deeply do love each other for the sake of Allah and got married later on within that same year. And that is how I came to islam...

holla, sugarplum*

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Just a simple poem..

Assalaam Akaikum here's a poem I came across on an islamic website, thought I would share with you sisters out there.

Beauty Tips

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you will never walk alone
People, even more than things have to be restored, renewed,
revived, reclaimed and redeemed

Never throw out anybody,
Remember if you ever need a helping hand,
you'll find one at the end of your arm,

As you grow older, you'll discover that you have two hands,
one for helping yourself, the other for helping others,

The beauty of a woman is not the clothes she wears,
The figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair,
The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides,
The true beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,
True beauty is reflected in her soul,

It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
And the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!


Friday, January 30, 2009

A must try Islamic text message...

Your phone goes off and you look at the screen. You have a text message and it reads:

Fajr improves your beauty, Zuhr increases your income, Asr increases your health, Maghrib makes a good future for your children, and Isha procvides you with a peaceful sleep. What more could you need in life?

I love all my sisters in islam for the sake of allah. Everyone of us goes through times when our Eemaan is low or high. Since we want for our friends what we would want for ourselves (janaah) lets do our part and keep the foundation strong. As muslims we always strive to be in the remembrance of allah at all times. Even the littlest deed is pleasing to allah s.a.w. So why not, send a text, keep the shaytaan at bay.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

I am a make up feen!

Hello my name is Taya, and I love to draw on my face... I can see it now joining a make up addicts support group. I consider myself definetly a feen. See it's getting out of control. MashaAllah, I've got alot. The most recent addition to my make up family was an awesome set of mac brushes. It looks like its a tool belt, only its complete with all types of brushes that one could possibly ever need. I'm so satisfied I don't think I'll be needing brushes for a long time. One thing I should mention to you sisters out there is to CLEAN your make up brushes. It's really important to. The last thing you want is bacteria..not a good look. And plus you could be the reason your face is breaking out. yikes!

It's important to excercise good make up habbits:

  1. Always check for expiry dates on your makeup. (yes they have a shelf life) So toss it if it's been a long long time.

  2. Before you go applying your make up, always apply it on a clean face and moisturize. You off to a good start if you do so.

  3. Don't sleep in your make up. Try and go to bed with a clean face. Invest in a make up remover.